Have you ever looked at someone and wondered how they ended up dating a complete loser? Secretly, you are envious because you think that you have more to offer. You begin to wonder why they never went on a date with you. Am I a loser? Would you date losers?
Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us.
We all have that one friend or family member who is dating someone we hate.
Unfortunately, there is not much you can do about someone else’s choice in a mate. Creating conflict will only make matters worse.
A little bit of hope.
Do you think it will help to learn there are reasons why some people choose losers? If you can spot these behaviors, you can help your loved ones find more suitable partners.
- They Lack Confidence
The reason some people settle is because they don’t believe they are worthy of love. This can be the result of past sexual abuse, weight gain or disability. This is of course, ludicrous. Nobody deserves to be mistreated or taken advantage of for any reason. Everyone deserves to have someone love them.
The truth is, those who demand better, get better. It is not always that easy. According to the laws of attraction, self-esteem plays a huge role in how we select our partners.
- They are Fearful of Being alone
There are some people who fear being alone so much so that they will risk their own happiness (and safety) just to be with someone. They think life isn’t worth living if there’s nobody to share it with.
It’s an irrational fear and in some cases a phobia. There is no reason for them to think they will be alone given the population of the world today.
Every day, individuals have the opportunity to connect with like-minded people. Not to mention that mobile chat apps lcan help you connect. They have tons of profiles of people who are ready, willing and able to chat with you via text. Alone? Not in this advanced society.
- They Think they Can Change People
If there are “must haves” traits someone is looking for such as humor, compassion and open-mindedness and the person has some but not all, they tend to settle. Perhaps over time, they believe they will develop the others. The problem is we forget to look for the traits we cannot accept. This can lead to an imbalance.
Who says you cannot find someone with all the things you want?
Most people fear rejection and getting hurt. The fact is some people will go to incredible lengths to avoid it. They limit their choices and end up in toxic relationships as a result.
They believe if they don’t meet other people, they will never get rejected. These are all unrealistic fears. They just might be the reason your loved one ended up with a loser.
Don’t judge them, help them!
Madeline Foster is a free-lance writer with a controversial and provocative writing style. She has a strong personal following and loves coffee. She works as a manager during the day for Tfonia.com, lives in suburbia, and is quoted as saying, “I drink bailey’s and I write things. Writing is a passion, not a job.”