You know them—the couple everyone looks at and just knows. They just exude love and togetherness. It seems like you never see them apart. They seem like they just “fit” with each other and will be together forever. They are truly soul mates. These are the types of people who are power couples. The ones we all envy. What do they have that other people don’t? How do they manage to stay married or in a healthy relationship for so long? What are the secrets of power couples?
Here are 10 relationship secrets of the couples we envy.
Keep the romance alive.
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
Many times in a marriage or a committed relationship, we get too comfortable. The heels come off and the jammies go on. We just don’t put enough focus on keeping the romance alive. Power couples just don’t let that happen. They go on dates regularly, they go away for the weekend, and they do the little things that their significant others appreciate.
Always be as friends.
“Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife.”
Successful couples are not just romantic lovers, they are friends. That means they share interests, they know each other inside and out, and they just love being together. Couples in healthy relationships spend time doing things the other person loves to do; maybe he loves board games so that’s what you do Sunday nights, and perhaps she is a foodie so they both go to a cooking class together.Talk about everything.
Talk About Everything
“When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory.”
If you can’t communicate, it’s hard for the relationship to survive. Power couples really do talk about everything from parenting to sex to football teams to what happened at work. Beyond talking, they also listen to each other. When each person feels they are being heard, they feel connected and loved.
Stay committed day in and day out.
“A successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day.”
When a power couple forms a union, they mean it. They take commitment seriously. The word “divorce” doesn’t enter their vocabulary. Through good times and bad, they will be there for each other. Sometimes being a couple is not easy. Things will go wrong. But that never means bailing.
“My husband and I are best of friends first and foremost. We fight like cats and dogs, but never stay mad for long. I was lucky to find him, he is in every way, my soulmate.”
Successful couples know that fights may happen, but they know that more important than holding on to “who is right” is forgiving and forgetting. The quicker the better. A couple can’t grow together when they are falling apart from a fight.
Notice the little things.
“All that a husband or wife really wants is to be pitied a little, praised a little, and appreciated a little.”
He loves a little foot rub after work, and she loves when she gets to control the remote for a bit. They are little things, but those little things add up. Power couples notice things about each other and then do something about it.
“To keep your marriage brimming, With love in the loving cup, Whenever you’re wrong, admit it; Whenever you’re right, shut up.”
Just let go of the things that don’t matter. In order to be successful in a relationship, keep conflict out of the picture as much as possible. Instead, be loving. Give the benefit of the doubt. Fill each other’s cups. That is what will keep you going strong for years and years.
Do things together.
“Marriage should be a duet – when one sings, the other claps.”
Many times, couples are composed of two people who are opposites in some ways. But that’s ok, it just creates one better whole. The thing that keeps makes couples successful is they do things together. In their diversity, they create something very beautiful.
“Marriage has made me a lot happier and I’m deeply in love with my wife, and I thank God for her every day.”
It’s easy to get caught up in the negative aspects of life, and then let it carry over to your relationship. That’s why power couples know the secret of being grateful. When you are humble and happy with what you have, then you enjoy life. You look at the positive. You realize that what you have is amazing.
“I have learned that only two things are necessary to keep one’s wife happy. First, let her think she’s having her own way. And second, let her have it.”
Selfish people have a hard time being in successful relationships because they are only interested in themselves. Having all the control doesn’t mean happiness. A couple is successful when they give of each other.
Rachel Pace is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support, and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages.