Every individual has something to fear but not everyone can manage to overcome his/her fears. During the time when I was on a self-awareness journey, I learned more about my fears and studied how a majority of successful people have found ways to overcome theirs. There was one thing that is common in their stories. They were willing to face their fears and eliminate them. This article will give you ways to conquer your fears.
In the year 1933, Franklin Delano Roosevelt launched his presidency by telling Depression-weary Americans “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.” According to research by psychologists at the University of London, nearly 90 percent of millennials say that they experience an intense period of confusion and depression during their twenties. That is high time for self-awareness and goal setting for self-improvement. It is advisable for conquering your fears.
A majority of people only have the fear of failure. However, there are examples such a Mark Cuban, Elon Musk, J.K. Rowling, Oprah Winfrey, Abraham Lincoln and Steve Jobs who have failed several times before doing great things. “Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out”, was rightly said by Benjamin Franklin.
Success comes when you overcome your fears according to the law of attraction (The Secret) which also clearly states that gratitude and faith is the only key to success.
We should realize that the more we achieve, the greater the possibility of failure. As one climbs a ladder or a mountain, the higher he gets, the greater is the fear of falling. This thought will make fear cling to your entire success journey, thus may always act as an anchor to pull you down.
To overcome fear, it is important that one must be self-aware and understand his own self and the situational circumstances that might trigger his/her own fears. Do not fear the fears. “Nothing in life is to be feared, it is to be understood”, said Marie Curie. We are only the awareness that experiences these fears.
Self-assurance or what is the worst that could happen. (WTWTCH?)
One of the techniques that helped me a great deal was the self-assurance technique. This involves assuring yourself that you are an individual on Earth. Earth is merely a tiny speck in the cosmos, and there are, residing on Earth approximately 8 billion people. So considering this, one looks a little tiny and the fear perhaps become 1/1000th of his entire self. One is more than his fear and he should believe that there are greater things beyond his fears. So ask yourself, what is the worst that could happen?
Emotional Freedom Technique
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) means acquittal of any sort of emotional energy tethered to your fear. That merely comes into practice through meditation, self-confidence, and self-improvement. This usually happens when one has a bad experience with a certain situation and expects the same thing again. However, there is a saying try and try, until you succeed and so you will.
The Sedona Method is a self-administered psychotherapy created by Lester Levenson, claiming to release you from emotional baggage and bring you contentment and prosperity. This mainly involves releasing the negative energy and focusing on times that you felt the most positive in your entire life. This release method helps a person physically as well as psychologically. One should accept that fear is a negative energy. According to studies, negative energies cling to emotions one feels in a difficult situation in his life. This trapped emotional energy can appear in the form of a disease in his later life, according to scientific studies.
Self-induced hypnosis – exploring the root of your fear
This technique involves re-programming your mindset into one that does not recognize your previous fears. According to a study, thoughts are frequencies in the energy realm and once a thought comes into the universe, it finds ways to intensify on larger levels. As it is famously said that, “Do the things you fear and fear will disappear”. Once you know the root of your failure, re-doing it can uproot the fear itself.
Failure is evidence that you have accepted a challenge before and stood up for it. Failure is a stepping-stone to success.
The best way to counter all sorts of negative energies is gratitude. Gratitude being the most powerful of thoughts can conquer fear. Utilize it by switching to gratitude when you experience fear. For example, one fears public speaking. This can bring the opportunity to speak and acknowledge the fact that many people hear your voice.
Surround yourself with people who had the same fear and conquered it. You need to be with people who teach and inspire you. Eradicate the negative energy and negative people from your life that induce fear into your thoughts.
One of the effective ways that I stumbled upon a few weeks ago is journaling. This does not mean maintaining a diary. It involves writing down your goals and ambitions and setting a one-year plan for the key areas of self-improvement that you want to work on. Follow the technique by maintaining a journal and dividing it into sections namely; books, healthcare, business, leisure, milestones, personal key areas etc. and write down what needs improvement. This can be a motivational tool for one to overcome his fears.
Build a vision and journal it. Study ways to act on it and enjoy the ride. Big successful benchmarks happen a few times only. Take the pressure off yourself and relish your accomplishments. This will bring an energy that can help you conquer any sort of fear that you experience. Rather than belittling and diminishing your abilities, celebrate your milestone. Share your milestones with your friends, journal them and cherish them. It is a motivator and an acknowledgment of your tenacity and your hard work.
NLP is an approach to communication and self-development. It is a psychotherapy devised by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. It utilizes an imitative method of learning termed as modeling. This states that in case of situational fears, when the same situations anticipate a different reaction, the sub-conscious can be re-modeled not to experience them. This is quite similar to “releasing energy”, which includes going back to the source of the fear in order to eliminate it.
Positivity, diet, and perspective
According to Schiller, confronting fears is a core component of cognitive behavioral therapies for anxiety disorders, but also a major hurdle for patients. A good diet can lead to a healthier mindset as it keeps the hormones i.e. dopamine and serotonin in balance. Further incorporating food that triggers serotonin might help in mood-stabilizing in case one is working on his fears. Positivity is a very powerful energy and its power can eradicate a fear that hinders your success. For this, a positive perspective needs to be established. In order to bring change in your life, the mind has to be changed. One has to think and believe as if the fear is already gone.
Yoga might help to release the energy that is within your body. These can be the initial steps to successful life. People might fear uncertainty, discomfort, and change. All change, even good change, involves some level of uncertainty and discomfort. By accepting the inevitably of discomfort, its effects can be minimalized.
A majority of millennials are depressed because they try to control uncontrollable things. People fear things they cannot control. When you finally accept that some things are just out of your control, you may stop fearing instantly. For example, a professional guitar player fears that he may hit the wrong notes in public. However, you should give up the illusion of control and you will set yourself free!
Success sets the bar higher than before. People need to perform better than they already have which means more hard work, more hours and more challenges. Thus, people fear the more they might succeed, the more they have to keep up with themselves. As it is rightly said by Marianne Williamson, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”
This also means that one always compares his success to others around him and thus exerts himself with an extra pressure of not losing. However, if one just accepts that everyone has his or her own destiny and there is a time for everything. Our demons are not as big as we think them to be.
I reckon the steps that I followed to overcome the fears I was facing, such as hydro-phobia and the fear of failure, which hit most of the ambitious and hungry people I have met, were as mentioned above, and to my experience were quite effective. Begin to change your thoughts about success, fear and failure and your reaction to it, and you will find the courage and enthusiasm to embrace your fears and conquer them.
About the Author
Asma Niaz is an Academic writer at Zoe Talent Solutions who loves to write stellar content on various educational topics, programs, training, and courses. Zoetalentsolutions is the world’s premium place, which offers a highly professional personal development courses to excel at your workplace.